Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
“Underneath all the distress, partners are asking each other: Can I count on you? Are you there for me? Will you respond to me when I need, when I call? Do I matter to you? Am I valued and accepted by you? Do you need me, rely on me?”
– Dr. Sue Johnson
- Do you feel alone and isolated in your relationship, as if you’re drifting apart?
- Has your relationship left you feeling like a nag, because you just aren’t being heard?
- Does it seem like no matter how hard you try, you can’t get anything right for your partner?
It’s not unusual for couples to get stuck in painful cycles of disconnection — that feeling you are getting into the same fight without ever resolving the underlying conflict. Using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), a highly effective, evidence-based couples therapy, I help you gain clarity on the reactive patterns that are resulting in high levels of distress.
Rooted in neurobiology and attachment theory, the EFT model prioritizes emotion and emotional regulation as the primary organizing agents in individual experience and key relationship interactions. Once we identify your cycle, we will work to build safety and trust in your relationship so that you can access and share your emotions and needs with one another. Studies show that 70-75% of couples move from distress to recovery, and about 90% show significant improvement.